Don't be a d•••! Get your point across.
I have started to get this theory developed. It's not scientific. There isn't a focus group. I have not created spreadsheets. It's just something the last few weeks has helped me come to conclusion with. It comes down to one simple statement. Don't be a d••k!
Take a few minutes to think about this. Why do we cuss. Why do we yell. It's all to create a moment of shock, awe, drama, etc... You are speaking and then BOOM! You are yelling. You are yelling and then you add that "word". It's a "bad word" and you know it is used to get your point across.
If you take the time to go out of your way and be nice you'll be surprised. It takes less energy in the long run. When it's time to make that point, even then, you don't have to be that d•••. You don't have to cuss. You can just assert yourself in a more stern manner. You can make it a point to let them know that you are not in the place to be happy go lucky but still you aren't yelling at the top of your lungs. You aren't being unprofessional in a place where it's expected for you to be professional.
Will this always work? I doubt that you an always be that super nice human being and not start to get walked all over. There are just some people that think that if you are nice then you are a push over. That being said, I think you will come off as someone that people will be good with working for or with more often then not.
It's definitely something that I've started to think about. Try it for a few weeks. This is not something that you can try out for a few days. Otherwise, I would have only spent a few days on it.
In other moments of clarity I've actually had the chance to see my improvement as a flyer designer. Learning to be clean while continually adding a ton of sh!+ to a poster sized area is no easy thing if you come from the minimal kind of things.